So, you are Hawaii Wedding Planning! Yay! Your mind is probably spinning with the endless possibilities of how to create such a meaningful day in your life. As professional wedding officiant I might be biased… however, I think that the officiant and the ceremony are very important parts of the day that are overlooked.
To write or not to write your own vows, that is the question!
When I talk to couples who are planning a wedding in Hawaii, many of them have this question. I think the answer to this question depends on the kind of people that you are!
I talk to some couples who are nervous to be in front of a crowd of people on their wedding day. Some aren’t stoked about the idea of speaking in front of a bunch of people. People also feel like their vows are personal and don’t want to share in front of a crowd. If this sounds like you, you can have your officiant come with prepared “repeat-after-me” vows. This does not mean that your vows will not be personal to you. The right officiant (like me!) will hop on a call with you. This will ensure that the repeat-after-me vows are true to you as a couple.
If you as a couple aren’t scared of speaking in front of a crowd, then personalizing your vows may be the way to go! This is often times the time during the ceremony when I notice that guests shed the most tears. They get to hear from you why you are choosing to commit to each other.
You’re Hawaii Wedding Planning… think Outside of the box!
If you are Hawaii Wedding Planning, I also advise couples who I work with to think outside of the box! For example, you don’t have to share your vows in front of your guests. You can take a moment and step away from the crowd. You can also share your personal vows together before or after the ceremony.
I also always love when couples decide to do a bit of both in their ceremony! You can share your personal vows, and then have the officiant lead you through call and response vows afterwards! These options exist whether your wedding is an elopement with just you and your hunni, a more intimate ceremony with a few loved ones, or a larger ceremony with many guests.
Other vow-related things think about when Hawaii Wedding Planning
Okay, so if you have decided that you do want to write your own vows. There is no right way or wrong way to do it! Here are some things that a I suggest you think about:
- Think about your journey together and what brought the two of you together
- What do you love about your partner?
- What does this commitment to your partner mean to you?
- What do you want to commit to your partner on your wedding day?
Your Officiant Matters!
The entire ceremony comes together when you have the right officiant. That is where I come into play! If you are planning your Hawaii Wedding, contact me to make your day official! Even if you have a friend or family member officiating your day, reaching out to an officiant can be helpful as they will guide them through a flow of the ceremony.